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ISSUE DECEMBER 16, 2002
LIVING: SEXUAL
HABITS
Sleeping Disorder
Small-town sexual mores undergo a subtle shift
as housewives and girls trade bodies for favours and fun
by Kaveree Bamzai
Unstemmed desires have a way of sapping integrity
without the conscience-tugging caveats of guilt. Seema Shrivastava should
know. She had a good life: a husband employed in the Reserve Bank of India,
two children and an apartment in an elite neighbourhood in Bhopal. Clearly,
it wasn't enough. Swayed by consumerist aspirations, she consciously strayed
into the flesh trade. When arrested by the police last week from her flat
with two girls and their "clients", she was unfazed, even brazen.
"I'm not a prostitute. I just like to live a good life and the people
who come to me have a good time. I'm only giving back to society what
I have got from it," she said in custody. Her companions, a college
girl and an 18-year-old school dropout, said they were promoting their
careers.
Sexcursion: Shrivastava (left) with the arrested
girls
The call-girl scandal that hit conservative Bhopal last month failed
to create the stir that it would have a few years ago. Not because of
its limited spread but because sexual mores in small towns and cities
have undergone an imperceptible, yet significant, shift. "There is
a new class of social offenders who indulge in sex of their own volition,"
says Inspector Archana Singh, head of the mahila thana in Bhopal. "They
are looking for a good life and fulfilling desires that can't be done
on a middle-class income." Which is why a girl from Indore who was
held in Bhopal in a similar case confessed to going out with men "friends"
as they bought her things she couldn't afford on her husband's salary.
A private-sector employee, her husband, however, never queried her on
the new acquisitions like a cell phone and a vcd player.
According to the police, a racket of housewives seeking a bit of action
on the side is flourishing in Bhopal and Indore. In most cases, the husbands
themselves act as pimps. In Shrivastava's case, when she complained to
her husband about his boss' advances, he only encouraged her. So when
senior government officials visited the flat, Shrivastava prompted other
girls in search of careers to meet them.
The fact that the "good life" is being promoted by powerful
people in the Government gives it a seal of approval. "The line between
temptation and action has become very thin," says Bhopal-based Dr
Rajesh Patel . "The veneer of gentility and the edifice of middle-class
society in small towns are crumbling." Peer pressure and rampant
consumerism are also playing a big role. "There is too much to buy
in the market today. With television making our lives lonely and full
at the same time, established social mores are breaking down," says
Ajita B. Pande, an ias officer.
I am not a prostitute. I just like to live a good
life. Seema Shrivastava, wife of an RBI official, Bhopal
Materialistic yearnings notwithstanding, the disturbing trend has also
moved to respectable homes and well-to-do families where young women find
nothing wrong in selling their bodies to promote careers. Many encounters
originate in the so-called clubs that make little effort to hide their
real purpose. One such club in Bhopal busted last year by the police was
the Anil Gupta Broad Minded Club. Set up by Anil Gupta, the club claimed
a national presence with the sole aim of facilitating short-term friendships
with emphasis on sex.
"We found more than 250 names from small towns like Jhansi and Gwalior
who had joined the club. Even people from reputed families were members,"
says Sofia Qureshi, a sub-inspector who helped in the case. It had a network
of over 3,500 members nationwide who had paid a one-time entry fee of
Rs 1,800. From Delhi, Gupta played Cupid, redirecting mail and bringing
together people. The members even answered 31 questions on sex, including
some like whether women would like the company of gigolos.
Investigations reveal defined parameters within which the trade is developing.
Phoney companies claiming to recruit models for ad films advertise in
regional papers and then wait in plush offices for girls to show up. The
ones who do, mostly from middle class, are advised to get a "professional
portfolio". The inducements begin while taking photographs that eventually
lead the girls into the world of sleaze.
"Sometimes the girl is trapped, but mostly she takes a conscious
decision to join the flesh trade to become a model, find employment or
just enjoy male company," says Singh. Trading flesh for a flashy
lifestyle is obviously no longer an ethical dilemma. Just a bad decision.